Today we’re talking about limiting beliefs; what they are and most importantly, how to transform them. Let’s dive straight in.
A limiting belief is a state of mind or thought about yourself that restricts you in some way or causes negative impact. We use this term to describe our internal belief system which makes up how we see the world and how we see ourselves.
Typically, they are formed in childhood between the age of 0-8 when our brains are like little sponges. At this age, we absorb EVERYTHING (far more than we, as adults, give children credit for). Everything you experience at this age, becomes deeply engrained as a reality of how the world works. For example, if you are bullied at school, or the interactions you share with your parents (like “be a good girl” or “earning money is hard work”). These moments from our early years shape the beliefs we hold about ourselves, and they can really stick with us.
Limiting beliefs can also be formed in later life. For example, if you have experienced a toxic relationship with a friend/partner/boss, you can create limiting beliefs off the back of that. They can also be triggered by something from childhood that maybe you don’t quite remember or you don’t have access to with your conscious mind.
Regardless of where your limiting belief stems from, the most important thing to remember is that whilst your limiting beliefs feel very real to you, they are NOT your reality.
1. Give your inner critic the floor
Ask yourself, are you satisfied in all areas of your life? If you were to rank your health, wealth, love and happiness out of 10, what score would you give yourself. And, are you happy with that? This exercise will help you identify where you are feeling stuck.
2. Notice your narrative.
What are the things that you are saying to yourself day in, day out? Because so often, we try and suppress this. We try and pretend that these voices aren’t happening. But actually these voices are the gateway to your subconscious. These voices are the gateway to understanding what is going on for you beneath the surface. For example: “I’m not pretty enough to achieve that”, “I’m not skinny enough to meet my soulmate”, “I’m not successful enough yet compared to others”. Whatever your narrative is, I want you to write it down.
3. Play a game of Jenga
I want you to take this narrative and see how it’s also showing up in other areas of your life. It’s like a Jenga block, right? You have surface level beliefs. And you also ave core limiting beliefs. These are the foundations, and everything else is being built on these beliefs. For me, money played a huge part, but when I stripped it back and knocked down the blocks, money wasn’t actually my core limiting belief. My core limiting belief was “I’m not good enough”. And so when I unearthed my core limiting belief, it shifted everything else and my whole reality changed. So let’s unearth the root of your limiting belief.
It’s time to get everything down onto paper. This can feel scary, right? Often there is resistance to do this work, but until you find the energy and the motivation to get this shit down, nothing’s going to change for you. This step is about getting everything down and really understanding. Try these journal prompts:
My limiting belief is…
Why do I believe this?
Where might that have come from?
4. Access your subconscious
Often, your limiting beliefs are stuck deep in your subconscious. The best way to do this is through breath work. If you have practiced breath work with me before, you will know how it works. Breath work works in a way where you are infusing your body with oxygen, and that starts to shift the prefrontal cortex of your brain, which is where your inner critic lives. So that part of your brain completely relaxes, and it’s through that process that you can connect to your subconscious. You can put these Jenga blocks together and you can start recoding your beliefs from the root.
The impacts from one breathwork session are phenomenal. Pop me a message if you’d like to explore breathwork together!
5. Take action to disprove your limiting beliefs
This is THE MOST important step. You can have a crystal clear idea and awareness of what your limiting belief, but if you aren’t taking action to shift this belief, you will stay stuck.
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