We are conditioned to be people pleasers.
From an evolution perspective, this makes total sense. By playing it safe and making ourselves more likeable it means we’re not going to get rejected, left out in the cold or suffer.
Innately, we’re pack creatures – we want to fit in.
If deep down you know you’re people pleasing whether that’s with your family, friends, in your business or at work, it has HUGE consequences, not only on the now, but long term.
In business, people tend to:
Take on too much
Find it hard to say no
Struggle to put their prices up
Feel huge resistance on sharing their voice
If we look at this from a symptoms perspective, you might find yourself experiencing burnout and exhaustion from your people pleasing tendencies.
If we dig deeper, it’s because you’re struggling to say the magic word – NO!
You’re saying yes to everybody else but yourself.
If you constantly say yes to everybody else but not yourself, that is a problem. WHY? Because internally you’re telling yourself that you’re not worthy.
If you know you’re a people pleaser, I urge you to listen to episode 56 of my podcast.
As you’re listening to the episode, hit pause as the below questions come up and take some time to reflect as you answer these journal prompts:
How does people pleasing show up for you?
Why are you a people pleaser?
Where did you learn this behaviour?
What beliefs do you hold to be true about yourself?
Thinking about your answers to the previous question, where do you feel this in your body?
What fears do you have around saying no, letting people down or setting boundaries?
What memories come up for you?
What patterns of safety behaviour do you have?
Thinking about your fears, how can you start de armouring these and make them less scary?
How do you want to feel?
What does unapologetic look like for YOU?
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